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Is someone you know being forced to do things they’re not comfortable with - like doing favours for others against their will or things online that make them feel uneasy or anxious?

Young people can find themselves under pressure to carry out acts or favours for the person exploiting them. They will often be promised something in exchange, like gifts, status in a group or gang, or perhaps somewhere to live/stay. But the acts or favours which are asked for in return are usually criminal in nature. This kind of exploitation can be carried out by a person, organised criminal gangs or even a partner.

For advice on the risks of grooming and exploitation by criminal gangs, read our advice on what to do if you are worried someone you know is supplying drugs. (Link – to above page)

Exploitation can happen in personal relationships; when you begin to feel scared or controlled by the person you’re with. You may be confused because it feels like a loving relationship but often only when you behave in a certain way. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is being physically or emotionally abusive in anyway, including over the phone, messaging, or using social media, this is relationship abuse. It can include:

  • Emotional abuse: controlling behaviour, like telling someone where they can go and what they can wear
  • Online abuse: threatening to post personal pictures or information about them
  • Controlling someone’s finances: withholding money or stopping someone going to work
  • Reading emails, text messages or letters without consent
  • Sexual abuse: making someone do something sexual when they don’t want to
  • Physical abuse: violence towards someone, such as kicking, punching, hitting

If you are worried that a young person you know is in an abusive relationship or living in a family where one adult is being abusive to another, you should reach out to them and share the following resources:

Childline: call 0800 1111 or sign up so you can online chat and send messages (9am – midnight). Read their advice section on the steps someone can take to report and end sexual abuse. 

The police: if it’s an emergency, call 999. If you can’t speak, listen to the questions, and tap or cough to answer. Press 55 to signal an emergency.

Read more about the risks in our frequently asked questions section below

You might find the following resources useful

For more advice on spotting the signs of unhealthy or abusive relationships and how to tackle them, read the advice pages on the Love Respect website 

You can access confidential emotional support at any time from Samaritans either by emailing or by calling 116 123.

Or you can get emotional support through the Youth Emotional Support (YES) service at your local FindItOut Centre. There are FindItOut Centres in Adur, Bognor Regis, Chichester, Crawley, Horsham, Littlehampton, Mid Sussex and Worthing.

For advice for friends, family, neighbours on supporting young people living with abusive relationships, download this guide. 

Crimestoppers – is an independent charity that gives you the power to speak up to stop crime, 100% anonymously.

Telephone: 0800 555 111

Website: www.crimestoppers-uk.org

You will need to talk to that person at the earliest opportunity.

It can be a daunting conversation but remember they may be scared or unwilling to talk about it.

We advise:

  • It is critical that they know that you care, you want to listen and support them;
  • Gangs are hierarchical and often younger children can find that they are unintentionally coerced into taking part in gang activity and they become victims themselves. As a victim, speaking up early can be a powerful thing;
  • You should try to stay calm no matter how upset or angry you are- this is easier said than done but is also crucial to a successful outcome;
  • That you try to ask questions, rather than making rash accusations;
    You listen carefully to what they say without interrupting them;
  • Tell them it’s ok to say ‘no’ to requests that make them feel uncomfortable and point out that it can actually build respect and stop continual peer pressure or unwanted attention;
  • You really try to understand the situation from their point of view and why they have joined the gang;
  • Don’t take any explanation personally and try not to become defensive;
  • Ask what you, your friends and wider family can do to help – try to come up with a joint solution together. Young people are more likely to stick to a plan, if they have been involved in shaping it;
  • Carefully point out the risks and consequences of carrying drugs, knives or guns (or even storing or hiding them for others) – see our FAQ below;
  • Try to find alternatives together to being in the gang;
  • Suggest that they contact a Connect2 Community ambassador who can talk to them and signpost them for further help.

If you have a concern about the safety of a child, please contact your local council’s children’s services (often called a Multi-Agency Safeguarding Hub) or the police if a child is at immediate risk.

If you are looking for general advice or information about safeguarding or child protection, contact one of our Community Ambassadors who can talk to them and signpost them for further help

If the young person will not engage with you, contact us by email and we will aim to put you in touch with one of our trained Community Ambassadors who may be able to help you make the breakthrough you need

Bullying online is increasingly common and causes significant anxiety and distress for young people who are on the receiving end. Social media channels have been adapted by gangs and criminal groups as a way of grooming and recruiting new members and as a control tactic.

Bullying and abuse can take place by email, text message, social networking, online chat or even by defamatory websites.

If a friend tells you they are being bullied, listen sympathetically. Seeking help is the right thing to do. Look at ways of blocking the messages.

Victims of online bullying should not reply to any bullying messages, but it is important to keep a record of every message.

Online stalking or harassment is a criminal offence, and you should consider reporting the issue to the local police. The Police (or other investigating organisations, see below) will need to see copies of the messages you have been receiving.

Further information to help keep you, your friends or family safe online can be found at: The following organizations can also help investigate serious or persistent inappropriate online behavior:
  • The Internet Watch Foundation – can help investigate illegal online content (https://www.iwf.org.uk)
  • NSPCC Child Protection Helpline – the NSPCC Freephone (0808 800 5000) service can offer confidential, free, support and for victims of online bullying and harassment.
  • ChildLine – also operate a free, confidential, 24-hour helpline for children and young people affected by this problem.
  • The Child Exploitation and Online Protection Advice service – provides internet safety advice and help as well as a way of reporting abusive online content (https://www.ceop.police.uk/safety-centre)

Embrace (https://embracecvoc.org.uk) are a charity supporting children, young people and families who are victims of serious crime. Embrace help victims and their families cope with what has happened, support their recovery and provide services that enable them to put events behind them, to move on and fulfil their potential.

Victim Support has dedicated advice and support networks for young people and their families – see, https://www.victimsupport.org.uk/help-and-support/young-victims-crime. Their youth programme, You & Co, helps children and young people affected by crime.

As a victim of crime, you are entitled to certain information and support from criminal justice agencies such as the police and the courts. The Victims’ Code explains what you can expect from the moment you report a crime to what happens at and after a trial. To read the Victims Code – https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/746330/victims-of-crime-leaflet-2018.pdf

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